Dialectical Interchange (excerpt)

Diotima

Elbridge

Emily

Julia

Patrick







We consider each applicant separately because we can't assume that couples will remain together indefinitely.





Julia, what are your own personal reasons for applying for membership in this community?











Yes, Julia, it appears you may have too much of your identity in being Patrick's wife, not enough of an independent identity to be a separate member. What do you think about this, Patrick?







And each person must apply as a separate individual, not as a couple.

Julia, we recognize your relationship with Patrick, but we can only consider you for membership as a separate person in your own right.













Julia, I have to be honest in saying that I feel your own personal reasons for wanting to be a member of this community may not be sufficient.






I think we can leave it here. Julia, I'd suggest you give this question we've explored ongoing thought, making sure you're approaching the community as an entirely separate person.

You both understand, I take it, that each applicant is considered as a separate person, independent of their relationship with a spouse or significant other?

Each person must have his or her own reasons for wanting to be a part of this community.











Would you want to be a part of this community even if you and Patrick decided to separate or divorce?












Yes, and I'd like to know why that is. Patrick and I both decided to apply for membership in your community. It was a joint decision.

My identity is both as an individual and as Patrick's wife.

Well, I guess I understand that. I certainly have my own interest in being a part of this community.

Well, I want to be with Patrcick, certainly. But I also want to contribute to building a cooperative community that can stand opposed to the greed-based capitalist system we're now under.

I can't see Patrick and I ever separating. But if we did, yes, I'd still want to be a part of this community because of what you're trying to do.

Yes, even if Patrick and I were to separate or divorce, I'd still want to be part of a commonwealth community.









We understand that we're each being considered for membership as a separate individual.


















Julia and I have discussed this very question. As best I can determine, Julia does have her own reasons for wanting to be a member of this cooperative community.