Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving -- Test

This is not a True or False or Multiple Choice test. This exercise tests your understanding of the book: The Art of Loving. Click on A ( Agree) or D (Disagree) in terms of whether the book would  Agree or Disagree with each item.


1. Loving is not an art, it is a pleasant sensation which one "falls into."
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2. The problem of love is getting someone to love you.
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3. Legitimate ways to make yourself lovable are those used to make yourself successful.
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4. Loving is an art that requires knowledge, learning, and effort.
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5. Genuine love involves mutually favorable exchange, bargaining for a nice package of qualities.
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6. Human love relations should follow the same patterns of exchange which govern the
    commodity and labor markets.
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7. Being "crazy" about each other is a sure sign of love between a couple.
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8. It's necessary to learn the art of loving in the same way we learn any other art.
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9. One of the deepest human needs is to overcome our interpersonal separateness, to leave the
    prison of our aloneness.
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10. The search for sexual orgasm can become a desperate attempt to escape the anxiety
      engendered by separateness.
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11. Mindless conformity to group ideology and practice is an attempt to overcome interpersonal
      separateness.
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12. Equality should mean "sameness" instead of "oneness."
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13. Women today often believe they've acquired genuine equality by becoming the same as men.
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14. Since all people should be equal, it would be incorrect to say that love is union under the
      conditions of preserving one's individuality.
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15. A person meditating on his oneness with being is passive because he is not doing anything.
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16. Love is an activity, not a passive affect, involving giving as much as receiving.
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17. He who has much is rich, not he who gives much.
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18. The ability to love as an act of giving depends on the persons's having overcome dependency,     narcissistic omnipotence, and the desire to exploit others.
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19. Homosexual deviation is the failure to attain union of male and female polarity.
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20. Mature love says: "I love you because I need you."
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21. All mothers love their children unconditionally.
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22. Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an orientation of     the person to the world as a whole.
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23. For most people their own person, as well as others, is soon explored and soon exhausted.
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24. To show one's anger, one's hate, one's complete lack of inhibition is genuine intimacy.
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25. Sexual desire can be stimulated by the wish to conquer or to be conquered, by vanity, by the
      wish to hurt and even to destroy, as much as it can be stimulated by love.
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26. To love someone is not just a strong feeling--it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise.
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27. Love is an act of will and commitment, so it doesn't matter who the two persons are.
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28. To love oneself is sinful.
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29. It is possible to objectively evaluate and esteem one's own capabilities and accomplishments.
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30. Love is the child of sexual pleasure, so if two people learn how to satisfy each other sexually,
      they will love each other.
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